Do you remember the song Superwoman, by Karen White? I heard it this morning and it brought back a Biblical reading that my Mother always talked about - Proverbs 31:10-31 (Virtuous Woman).
I did some research and found some interesting results. The definition of a Virtuous Woman is a woman with strength of character. Now my research also brought a lot of issues to light for me. One major one is why I have not jumped the broom as yet.
The Virtuous woman as seen in the Bible does not sleep, she riseth also while it is yet night and her candle goeth not out by night. She does not bring shame to her household, she provides food and shelter, she is a financial wizard and does not make bad financial decisions, she takes care of husband and her children without complaint; working willingly with her hands. WOW!
It is understood that the term "husband" means lord or owner. Does this mean that I am now my husband's property, once I'm married? There are so many things that I read about a virtuous woman, that it makes me question what type of woman I am. Since I am not too sure that I can do all those things without complaint and still love and honour my husband(owner) with smiles and hugs. I will be too tired to do anything else, especially pro-create.
I have no intention of being someone's property and I do have the inclination to slave at home or spin yarn, like what the scripture suggests. Will that stop me from finding a husband or owner? If so, well I'll be single for a very long time. Why doesn't the scripture speak about a Virtuous Man? A man willing to assist in the chores, to love, honour and obey and a man who will go out hunting for food and not be a financial liability. One who will stay up late spinning yarn and get up early and prepare breakfast, without complaint.
If I find a man with strength of character - virtuous and God-fearing, maybe then I'll be willing to be his property.
Thursday, September 27, 2007
Thursday, September 20, 2007
Today's topic is so wide-reaching and has so many angles that it may take my entire writing career to cover it in its entirety. Humans are obsessed with and continue to search feverishly for the unwavering need to love and be loved.
Love is an emotion, a very simple one to feel, but very complex in sustaining. My decision to writ on Love was not so much to discuss the feeling but the other elements that are intertwined in this complexity. The phrase, if you cannot be trusted, you cannot be loved, comes to mind every time I ponder on love.
Trust is the foundation of every relationship - parent/child, husband/wife and friends. If you have no trust, you have absolutely nothing. Or so they say. I wonder how so many of us enter into personal committed relationships and give so freely of our fragile figurative hearts and give power and control to another. Trust is letting go and hoping that the other person will treat you they way you want to be treated and respected.
I believe trust, like faith, is like a blind man walking on the edge of a cliff, hoping not to fall. How stupid a move is that! Why should I give all control to another person? I mean, sometimes I don't even trust myself and some of the decisions I make for myself. I have heard that trust is earned, but how do we decide that the other person deserves our trust. And then when we give our trust, how sure are we that they don't take advantage of it. I know, you will say, we just have to trust that they don't. That's way too much trust for me.
I have been in a long term relationship and trust is still a major issue for me. Many experts will argue that we are on treacherous path, however, we have been standing the test of time thus far and working daily at keeping the spark alive. So, you ask how come? I tell you this, I trust him to be a MAN. He is human and so am I , we will falter and disappoint, but with second chances we will do better.
Trust should be earned, but more importantly, a reason to be trusted should be given. Each member of the relationship should not give the other person any reason to doubt their willingness to keep the relationSHIP afloat.
Have a Blessed Day!
Better late than Never :)
Love is an emotion, a very simple one to feel, but very complex in sustaining. My decision to writ on Love was not so much to discuss the feeling but the other elements that are intertwined in this complexity. The phrase, if you cannot be trusted, you cannot be loved, comes to mind every time I ponder on love.
Trust is the foundation of every relationship - parent/child, husband/wife and friends. If you have no trust, you have absolutely nothing. Or so they say. I wonder how so many of us enter into personal committed relationships and give so freely of our fragile figurative hearts and give power and control to another. Trust is letting go and hoping that the other person will treat you they way you want to be treated and respected.
I believe trust, like faith, is like a blind man walking on the edge of a cliff, hoping not to fall. How stupid a move is that! Why should I give all control to another person? I mean, sometimes I don't even trust myself and some of the decisions I make for myself. I have heard that trust is earned, but how do we decide that the other person deserves our trust. And then when we give our trust, how sure are we that they don't take advantage of it. I know, you will say, we just have to trust that they don't. That's way too much trust for me.
I have been in a long term relationship and trust is still a major issue for me. Many experts will argue that we are on treacherous path, however, we have been standing the test of time thus far and working daily at keeping the spark alive. So, you ask how come? I tell you this, I trust him to be a MAN. He is human and so am I , we will falter and disappoint, but with second chances we will do better.
Trust should be earned, but more importantly, a reason to be trusted should be given. Each member of the relationship should not give the other person any reason to doubt their willingness to keep the relationSHIP afloat.
Have a Blessed Day!
Better late than Never :)
Good morning
A Pleasant Good Morning to All:
Greetings from the Most High......Jah
Hope everyone had a wonderful weekend. My weekend was uneventful, well at least to me. I spent some much needed family time and some money I didn't have.
Walking down the aisle (that sounded really funny) in Pricesmart with my son and Mark, I got to thinking how important family life is. Raising children is a two-person job; that is how God intended. Now, do not misconstrue, to all the women and men that have been rallying solo, hats off to you! I am saying that this job is too difficult to endure alone. Almost all of us have a support system...a mother, father, brother, aunt, someone that we can lean on when needed.
This weekend my son said Daddy. I saw pride in his father's eyes and I think that made everything worthwhile.
It is important to spend as much time as possible bonding with our family and keeping the unit strong. After work and play, all we have left is blood. My family is very extended, in a sense some of my friends are closer to me that my siblings.
Take time out today and say hello, to a cousin or in-law that you may not have heard from in a while. Call the husbands/wives/boyfriends/girlfriends wish them a pleasant day and remember saying I love you is the easy part; showing it is a full time job.
Have blessed day!
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