Trust

Today's topic is so wide-reaching and has so many angles that it may take my entire writing career to cover it in its entirety. Humans are obsessed with and continue to search feverishly for the unwavering need to love and be loved.

Love is an emotion, a very simple one to feel, but very complex in sustaining. My decision to write on Love was not so much to discuss the feeling but the other elements that are intertwined in this complexity. The phrase, if you cannot be trusted, you cannot be loved, comes to mind every time I ponder on love.

Trust is the foundation of every relationship - parent/child, husband/wife and friends. If you have no trust, you have absolutely nothing. Or so they say. I wonder how so many of us enter into personal committed relationships and give so freely of our fragile figurative hearts and give power and control to another. Trust is letting go and hoping that the other person will treat you they way you want to be treated and respected.

I believe trust, like faith, is like a blind man walking on the edge of a cliff, hoping not to fall. How stupid a move is that! Why should I give all control to another person? I mean, sometimes I don't even trust myself and some of the decisions I make for myself. I have heard that trust is earned, but how do we decide that the other person deserves our trust. And then when we give our trust, how sure are we that they don't take advantage of it. I know, you will say, we just have to trust that they don't. That's way too much trust for me.

I have been in a long term relationship and trust is still a major issue for me. Many experts will argue that we are on treacherous path; however, we have been standing the test of time thus far and working daily at keeping the spark alive. So, you ask how come? I tell you this, I trust him to be a MAN. He is human and so am I , we will falter and disappoint, but with second chances we will do better.

Trust should be earned, but more importantly, a reason to be trusted should be given. Each member of the relationship should not give the other person any reason to doubt their willingness to keep the relationSHIP afloat.

Have a Blessed Day!